In order to strengthen any muscle it requires resistance. Ask any body builder or trainer worth their salt and they will tell you in order to build muscle you have to use weights. It’s the weights that provide the resistance necessary to build the fiber known as muscle. If you are a first timer at the gym and you aren’t interested in killing yourself, you will most likely start out with 5 vs 50 pound weights. By starting small and gradually increasing the weight load it becomes naturally easier over time. Given a year, you will be picking up 20 pound weights without batting an eye and your body will reflect this.
It’s the same principle with the power of No. We have to exercise our “No Muscle” to strengthen it. The resistance in this case is ourselves. When making the decision to spend money, especially on things we don’t really need but just want, it can go one of two ways. One, we spend the money, maybe on a credit card, justifying our actions, even to ourselves. Or Two, we resist the temptation and move on. There is no joy in the former, the power lies in the latter. When we give into ourselves, the sugar high soon fades and we feel weak and remorseful. When we say no to ourselves, we feel strong and in charge. Start saying No to yourself on the small stuff and you will be amazed at how much easier it becomes when faced with bigger decisions. You will naturally chose in favor of the better choice. Over time both you and your bank account will reflect this positive change.